An Open Letter to a Very Brave Supernatural Fan

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You never know when a moment and a few sincere words can have an impact on a life. – Zig Ziglar

Dear Brave SPN Fan,

On October 27th, 2013 you and I were at the Westin Hotel in Rosemont, IL to see Jared Padalecki and Jensen Ackles at Creation Entertainment’s Salute to Supernatural convention (ChiCon).  You were in line on the left side of the stage to ask a question.  In fact, you asked the LAST question of Jared and Jensen’s panel that day.  You asked if Jared and Jensen thought Sam and Dean would ever give up on life.  Would they ever feel so overwhelmed to consider suicide?

My heart broke when I heard your question and tears immediately started to roll down my cheeks as I reached for my husband’s hand.  I worried for a moment how the boys would handle your question.  Jensen was very somber and remained silent as he deferred to Jared.  Jared’s answer was beautiful.  He told you, “Getting rid of yourself is never the answer.  Keep on fighting the fight.”  Jared went on to talk about how when he’s struggling, he’s learned to take the focus off himself and his problems, and look for ways he can help someone else.  By doing this, you help yourself by helping others.

I tried to find you after the panel but I was on the other side of the room and there were simply too many people between us.  On that day, I wanted to find you, give you a hug, and encourage you any way I could through my tears.  Today, I still want to find you and hug you, but I also want to thank you and praise you for your courage because YOU and that moment at ChiCon have forever changed my life!

I lost my nephew to suicide and his death ripped a hole through my heart and knocked me off my feet with such force that I have really struggled with how to move forward.  My homework assignment from my counselor is to look for opportunities to talk about my nephew and to talk about suicide.  I thanked Jared in the autograph line for his genuine, heart-felt answer to your question.  I also found the courage over the next several months to reach out to others who were at ChiCon and talk about your suicide question and my suicide loss.

In the process of reaching out to others, I discovered there were people all around me who were suffering in silence, and that they too, just needed a little help on how to move forward.  I realized I needed to take my loss, my journey, and pay it forward to help others within the SPN Family.  And so . . . I created SPN Survivors.

I want you to know I think about you A LOT and I will never forget you!  I wonder what impact Jared’s answer has had on you over the last year.  I want to know you are OK.

You are Awesome!  You are Brave!  And you inspired me to take the necessary steps I needed to move forward in my journey, and to help others along the way.  I would be honored if you would contact me.

With Much Love!

~ Karla

Email: info@spnsurvivors.org
Twitter: @SPNsurvivors

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9 responses to “An Open Letter to a Very Brave Supernatural Fan”

  1. Robin says:

    I suffered from my own demons in the past but know there is a light at the end of that road. You have to find joy each day and be at peace with yourself.
    I can truly say that Supernatural saved my life and has given me a reason to keep going.
    I am blessed to be a part of the SPN Family.

  2. Jessica says:

    I have to say, Karla, that what you have written here strikes very true for me. I have never attempted suicide but I have thought about and come close. I suffer from depression and anxiety. Sometimes it feels like the world is closing in on me and I have no way out of it. I could give you example after example of all the things that have happened to me but it would fill an entire book. I work on a day-by-day basis. I tell myself that every day is a new day and that I can always start over. When things are particularly bad, I find someone to help me share the grief. Sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn’t. It’s a daily struggle. But I do find as much joy as I can. I am blessed to have a niece and nephew that make me feel like I am the best person in the world. And my wonderful sister who never judges me no matter what I do. Supernatural has also been a big part of helping me. Seeing two brothers who truly understand each other like no one else always gives me hope. To know that the brothers are just as messed up as I am and that they somehow always make it work, it shows me that not everything is lost. I’ve watched it since the first episode and can’t stop watching it. We have to remind ourselves that every day is worth living. And that giving up is not the answer. Always fight the fight.

  3. Emilie says:

    Found this on the #AlwaysKeepFighting hastag on twitter, and just wanted to say how beautiful the idea is. I know you’ll help many people through their struggles.

    So sorry to hear of your loss. I nearly lost one of my sisters to suicide a few times when she was younger, and I’ve had suicidal thoughts myself. Compassion like yours is what helped me get through those dark times, and, like you, I hope to pay it forward, too.

    Wishing you and yours all the best!

  4. Kiki says:

    I’ve been through hell and back this year. I lost a best friend to suicide last summer from being bullied, and felt as helpless as it can get. I lost my mother in April to breast cancer, and I had to switch schools during this, my senior year of high school. but I always stay strong to the best of my abilities and always keep fighting the feelings of loss in my heart. because I know they’d want me to move on with my life and live for them. I hope you find the person you are looking for, Ma’am. I shall always hold this website dear to my heart.

  5. Jan says:

    Such a beautiful letter! Jared’s answer was absolutely perfect. Helping others does keep me from dwelling on negative issues while building self-esteem.

  6. Karen says:

    You are so right that through connections we find the answer. We all look at social media and see people more perfect than ourselves, and we come up short – how could we not with the professionally prepared, photoshopped images we see? To see some of our beautiful idols break down that wall and reach out a hand to say “You are all beautiful. Everyone struggles. You are of value.” is a powerful thing. To use social media for #AlwaysKeepFighting and #SPNSurvivors is also powerful. Connection is everything. Keep reaching out to others no matter how you yourself feel today. You have something to give and we are all glad you are here as part of our family. Thank you Karla, for starting this site.

  7. Maryellen says:

    Hi Karla. I want to thank you. Every single day I contemplate taking my life. I get through by distracting myself with whatever I can. My kids, housework anything. It’s constant. I’ve learned how to put on a good face and not let anyone in.

    I have Aggressive MS and rheumatoid arthritis but worst of all I have Hansen’s disease or Leprosy. Because of all of these illnesses my husband divorced me, my brothers and sisters have nothing to do with me and even my friends just left. I lost my home, cars everything. My kids are always struggling. Everything I do I do alone. I even signed up for gishwhes knowing I was the only person on “my team”. Is a pathetic existence.

    It’s been a hard long road and it’s taken a toll on me emotionally. Following your group on Twitter has helped me so much by helping me gain the encouragement to keep going.

    While I still can’t wait to “just be done with this life”, at least I can muddle through it a little better because of you and the SPN group.

    Thank you so much,
    Maryellen

  8. Anna says:

    Wow! This fan helped start this group! Just wow! They should feel special and so should you for starting it!

    Maryellen,

    My family has SEVERAL health problems and it hurts to watch my dad go through his flares. While I cannot fully understand what you are going through, I can mildly relate. Keep your head up! Try support groups and keep your kids close! Best of luck and lots of hugs!

    -Anna

  9. I have survived for 60 years and will keep on surviving. I told Jared that if I can survive 60 years he could too.
    blessed be to all of the other survivors out there.

    Diana

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